This PR refactors some ref-counting functionality out of `beginAllocateToPool` and `releasePool`. The ref-counting logic is then used in construction and destruction of `torch.cuda.MemPool`.
The `use_count` variable in the CUDACachingAllocator is essentially a refcount of how many context managers are using the pool. Since we are now lifting up the MemPool abstraction to the user, the MemPool object itself now needs to hold a an extra reference as well.
Part of https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/issues/124807.
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/133600
Approved by: https://github.com/eqy, https://github.com/ezyang