### Pull Request Readiness Checklist
resolves#16295
```
docker run --gpus 0 -v ~/opencv:/opencv -v ~/opencv_contrib:/opencv_contrib -it nvidia/cuda:12.8.1-cudnn-devel-ubuntu22.04
apt-get update && apt-get install -y cmake python3-dev python3-pip python3-venv &&
python3 -m venv .venv &&
source .venv/bin/activate &&
pip install -U pip &&
pip install -U numpy &&
pip install torch --index-url https://download.pytorch.org/whl/cu128 &&
cmake \
-DWITH_OPENCL=OFF \
-DCMAKE_BUILD_TYPE=Release \
-DBUILD_DOCS=OFF \
-DWITH_CUDA=ON \
-DOPENCV_DNN_CUDA=ON \
-DOPENCV_EXTRA_MODULES_PATH=/opencv_contrib/modules \
-DBUILD_LIST=ts,cudev,python3 \
-S /opencv -B /opencv_build &&
cmake --build /opencv_build -j16
export PYTHONPATH=/opencv_build/lib/python3/:$PYTHONPATH
```
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- [x] The PR is proposed to the proper branch
- [x] There is a reference to the original bug report and related work
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Patch to opencv_extra has the same branch name.
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this corrects bug #16592 where a Stream is created at
each GpuMat::load(arr,stream) call
a correct solution would have been to add a default to GpuMat::load
but due to circular dependence between Stream and GpuMat, this is not possible
add test_cuda_upload_download_stream to test_cuda.py
Fix cudacodec python
* Add python bindings to cudacodec.
* Allow args with CV_OUT GpuMat& or CV_OUT cuda::GpuMat& to generate python bindings that allow the argument to be an optional output in the same way as OutputArray.
* Add wrapper flag to indicate that an OutputArray is a GpuMat.
* python: drop CV_GPU, extra checks in test
* Remove "cuda::GpuMat" check rom python parser
